What is Mindfulness?
What is Mindfulness?

The Relevance of Mindfulness in Today's Modern World

Achieving Mindfulness
If you can integrate yourself into the moment, you have essentially wrapped the universe around you like a blanket. It is as if all of reality were created to meet your needs. You've let go of trying to adjust the falling grains of sand, and are simply climbing on top of that steadily rising layer as they fall. You seek to change only what you can, while accepting failures and mistakes as being a part of the human experience: in the end, the plane of sand is going to smooth itself out no matter what you do, so you might as well not put yourself into an early grave by trying to control that which is immutable. It sounds logical and straightforward enough, but a little deeper contemplation suggests that achieving this state of contentment is anything but ordinary for a person in today's society, however helpful it might be. So, how does one go about achieving a state of increased mindfulness? It isn't a stroke of lightning, a sudden and immediate transition. However, you can start to make a difference in your life with just a few short minutes every day.1. Find a Comfortable Place
You have the right to feel safe and comfortable in a personal, private place, somewhere. It should be someplace quiet, without a lot of distractions to pull you back into your usual routine. In your quiet place, there is nowhere else you have to be, and nothing you need to do. It's just you, and the universe, for some meaningful contemplation. It doesn't need to be private, strictly speaking. Some people find that the background noise of a busy coffee shop, for example, tends to fade into a soothing neutral tone. However, it's unlikely that you can count on other people not disturbing you for the duration, and novices are encouraged to use privacy to avoid distractions.2. Set Some Time Aside
Sometimes, it feels like this direction is a frustrating impossibility, even if we're only talking about a short period of time to be allocated. The modern world compels us to feel externally obligated, all of the time; it encourages us to believe that any five- or ten-minute block of time we choose to spend on ourselves would be better invested elsewhere. Overcoming this inherently uncomfortable feeling is the first real challenge in achieving a more mindful existence. Set a small block of time aside, on a daily basis, and commit to it. It's best if this happens at around the same time each day, because of how our bodies' natural rhythms work, but "at what point during the day" isn't quite so important: it might be before you leave for work in the morning, or before you go to sleep at night, or at any point in between.3. Make Yourself Comfortable
Meditation is best accomplished while seated upright, on a chair or on a sofa. Your feet should be on the floor, your back should be straight, and your hands should be resting comfortably in your lap. Advanced meditation often involves complicated poses; these, including the well-known lotus position in which many famous eastern figures are depicted engaging in meditation, are rooted in a range of factors (including cultural, psychological, spiritual, and physiological concerns). Individuals who are just learning how to follow a meditative tradition are usually taught to sit as has been described above.4. It's Important to Breathe
Breathing is obviously vital, but many people underrate how important it is to regulating the body's vital systems. A calm, steady breathing pattern can relax the nervous system, soothe cardiovascular stress, decrease muscular tension, and assuage fear and anxiety. This isn't a response to a meditative state; it's a physiological consequence of maintaining a slow, calm, and regular breathing pattern, and is one of many things that our modern sensibilities compels us to "stop wasting time on" any time we actually try to focus on it for more than a few seconds. Controlling your breathing can be seen as the second challenge to overcome, with time, through practice. Breathe in, and out, slowly and deeply and steadily; don't try to "do" anything. Just breathe. Close your eyes after you've taken five or six of these slow, deep breaths.5. Focus Impassively on the Moment
In terms of practicing a mindful lifestyle, "the moment" is where you are currently, when you are, and what's going on in your mind and your body. You want to take in your surroundings; how does the room smell? Is there a lingering taste in your mouth? Are there any dull, distant sounds you can hear? Contemplate how your body feels: is the room slightly cool, or a little warm? Is there stress in your muscles? Tension? Look at these things, but don't react to them emotionally. Take note of them, but only insofar as you understand that they exist. Don't worry about the implications of the thoughts in your head; let them come, don't try to stop them. Let them play out, like you're watching an interesting film.6. Relax
Here, we come to the third real challenge of meditation for mindfulness: Relaxing. Spending five or ten minutes with your eyes closed, breathing, and not acknowledging our inherent impulse to react emotionally and assert influence is difficult! Try to avoid being discouraged. Think, right now, about a typing class in school: there are huge advantages to being able to type properly on a keyboard, right? You can type much more quickly. You don't have to look at what you're typing; you can focus on source material. It's more efficient than the alternative, but how do you learn how to do it? Endless practice and repetition, until (in the purest sense of the word) you understand how it works, on a level which most typists can't simply describe verbally. Most need their fingers on a keyboard, even a visualized, imaginary keyboard floating in midair, to find specific keys. Mindfulness is about retraining your brain to regard reality in a different way; being unable to do it immediately, or in the short term, is normal. This faults neither the exercise, nor your abilities.7. Have a Plan
When coming out of your meditative practice, you will need to start thinking about things again: your day, your schedule, what you have to do, where you need to be. Some people find this experience frighteningly jarring; they lose the benefit of the experience in trying to cling to it emotionally, which defeats the purpose. Before you start your meditation, have a small plan in place, preferably one that incorporates a reward: brew some coffee (you can even start the coffee brewing before you go to your quiet place). Have a snack. Hit the gym. Do something to help smooth the transition between two very different ways of viewing the world, but make sure that you reflect periodically on your meditative experience throughout the day. Remember how it felt, and try to slip into that same mindset with regard to making those hundreds of tiny decisions that most of us take for granted.One More Thing...

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